Give A Friend A Gift (Don’t Let Go)

July 23, 2008 at 4:48 am
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Morrisey – Hold On To Your Friends

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I live in my head. I send myself flowers on special occasions. I slaughter cows in India. I buy $300 worth of champagne flutes not for company, but in order to avoid running the dishwasher for a week. I keep to myself.

Even in my head.

I haven’t always lived there, but something has been missing from my life for the past year, and introspection, imagination, and other ‘i’ words seemed to make more sense than attempting to meet new people.

Which brings me to Marcy, the remarkably wise woman who runs Lost In Your Inbox. When I read what she had to say about friendship it forced me to reflect upon what I considered essential to my stability and wellbeing.

“When I think about it, I realize that the relationships I enjoy the most or the times in my life I remember most fondly are the ones in which I could really be myself. The people with whom I am free to be all aspects of me, no matter how wacky or sad or stupid or sarcastic. I think that’s part of what I long for when I feel like something is missing from my life, those places and people with whom I can let it all hang out.”

This is not to say I haven’t good friends in this town. I do. But those who’ve stood the test of time across thousands of miles? Well, I want those around as well.

I need at least one.

Which is why, now that I’m moving to New York with two of my closest comrades, I feel lighter than I have in months, years even.

I feel happy.

I’m a firm believer in the notion that friends are the family you choose. Speaking of which, the picture above is of our new home. Thank you, Google Maps.

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  1. 8 Responses to “Give A Friend A Gift (Don’t Let Go)”

  2. By mjrc on Jul 23, 2008

    aw, rahawa, you're making me blush! i'm glad my words make sense to you, though. it's a lesson i learned the hard way.

    love your new place, btw. google maps is extremely cool. :)

  3. By rahawa on Jul 23, 2008

    You know that moment of clarity people have when everything clicks and every worry and feeling of dissatisfaction culminates into one, essential yearning? I had one of those moments when I read your entry; all that unsettled me for the past year suddenly made sense.

    I…I feel as though I should pay you for your services. ;-p

  4. By Lissa on Jul 23, 2008

    Hallelujah! In fact, if this wise person doesn't mind, I'll be stealing that quote as well, because it is exactly why I am returning to my hometown after 12 years in Florida. There are certain relationships that you can never ever duplicate or replace, and those are precious. And well worth garage sales, stacks of boxes and credit card debt! :P I'm glad you found a place, and that you're feeling so positive about your new adventure. We should start a “getting the hell out of Florida” club. Hehe.

  5. By mjrc on Jul 23, 2008

    the only repayment i'd request is that you continue to write wonderful posts like you do. that one about kevin sorbo STILL makes me laugh whenever i think of it. : )

    the post you're talking about is actually the culmination of a lot of struggling on my part to figure something out, and after a long time of unsettled and other painful feelings on my part, i finally realized something important and was able to put it into words. a lot of my writing seems to be in that vein these days!

  6. By rahawa on Jul 23, 2008

    Thanks, Lissa! I'm glad we found a place, too, and as I said, you're always welcome there. So far I'm pleased with the people with whom I'm ditching this Popsicle stand, you included. =)

  7. By rahawa on Jul 23, 2008

    I'll do my best, Marcy. I miss writing things like the Sorbo entry; I just haven't had it in me lately for many reasons (mostly painful). However, I think this unhappy time is gradually approaching an end. So, here's to more fun entries on my part!

    As far as your content these days is concerned, I understand better than you know. Just remember you have an eager pair of eyes on this end that finds you utterly inspirational. Truly.

  8. By austin on Jul 24, 2008

    Wow. That's really deep. And it makes sense when you think about it.

    Thanks for making my life a bit more clear and understandable.

    Good luck with your new home! :)

  9. By rahawa on Jul 25, 2008

    Anytime, Austin. And thanks for the warm wishes!

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